Children’s Birthday Party Planning: When and When Not to
Have a Big Party
by: Kimberly Hargis
Age 1 Invite only family members and close friends only because this
birthday is more for the parents than for the child. At age 1, a child doesn’t
understand the concept of “Birthday Party.” He or she is getting a lot of
attention---which is all a 1-year-old wants or understands anyway. You should
not go overboard on presents because too much could scare or confuse a child.
You should consider getting specialty items such as a plate that says “First
Birthday,” a 1-year-old candle, and possible a table cover that everyone could
sign with fabric paint to have as keepsakes that can someday be shown (or given
to) to your grown child.
Age 2 2-years-olds should have one or two playmates over for a small
Birthday Play Day. Again I suggest you keep a birthday plate and other keepsakes
for your 2-year-old.
Age 3 3-year-olds should have three to four playmates over, and at this age
you might have try a birthday game such as “Who can stack the blocks the
highest?” I do not recommend having a clown or playing any games that require a
blindfold over a child’s eyes such key due to the fact either can scare children
at this age. Remember your child has just turned 3, and the playmates are around
that age. They are still not able to understand fully structured games very
well. They only know if they do something good or better than other children,
everyone will give them attention. Again I suggest you collect keepsakes.
Age 4 At 4, children should now be ready for a “real” party. I suggest four
or five playmates. 4-year-olds are ready now for party decorations, but I
suggest you do less and save your money for the big number “5” birthday (or buy
decorations that you can put away and use again). Games such as Musical Chairs,
and carrying a hard boiled egg on a spoon to the finish line without dropping it
relay race can be appropriate, but remember that games will be played and
finished much sooner than you think. Consider having a few of your child’s
favorite videos on hand. Even if the kids have seen them 100 times, they will
enjoy them. After an hour or so, you will probably need a break and the children
might be cranky. A movie they are all spellbound by will be a great way to relax
the kids and you. You might want to consider spreading a couple of blankets on
the floor and have some pillows handy for sleepyheads!
Age 5 5-year-olds should have a big party, but remind them that this is
because they are the big “5,” and either starting school or just in school, and
having a “big” party will not happen every year. Explain to them that big
parties are only for special birthdays such as 5 because they have started or
are starting school, 10 because that is the first double-digit number, and of
course 16 (“Sweet 16” for girls and “Driving Age” for boys). This will save you
money in the long run. On the fifth birthday, I suggest you first decide if you
want to do it yourself, rent a building or park area but still do it yourself,
or call local businesses (like McDonalds) to see what party-planning packages
they offer. I personally suggest renting a park area if weather permits because
the kids will be just as happy playing on park equipment as they would if you
spent a ton of money on a professionally planned party. Have several inexpensive
disposable cameras on hand and let your Birthday Boy or Girl take pictures of
his or her first “big” party!
Great games for 5-year-olds whether inside or outside are:
- Hitting a Piñata that is full of candy.
- Relay races, which can be held in a garage, carport, or park.
- Water balloon fights if weather permits (and you have advised the parents
that the children are likely to get wet).
- Dancing to music and “freezing” when the music is stopped to see who looks
the silliest (this is a great game and everyone should win a party favor).
- Pin the tail on the donkey (consider a game that uses Velcro instead of
pins).
You can also do face painting and movie time. As with the 4-year-olds, you
need to over plan for games and activities and a movie is a great back up (or a
much-needed rest time). Another helpful hint is to take enough large plastic
trash bags to cover your kitchen floor and lightly throw all colors of paint on
them. Allow for adequate drying time before the party. Then you can use these
bags to cover your kitchen floor before cake time to catch cake droppings and
milk or soda spills (which WILL happen).
Ages 6-9 Birthdays can be simple overnight parties (“slumber parties” for
girls and “all nighters” for boys) filled with popcorn, junk food, movies, and
video games. As long as you let the kids stay up all night and sleep in half the
next day, this type of party can still be “cool”---what kid doesn’t love the
idea of staying up all night (even if they don’t make it all night). If it is
summer time, think about letting them sleep outside in a tent or on a
screened-in porch (just be sure to let the parents know exactly where their
children will be sleeping and you should plan to check in on them a few times
during the night).
Age 10 This should be done about the same as age 5 in terms of it being a
“special age” (and reminding your child that “big parties” like this will not be
done every year. Ten is a good age to consider renting a facility such as:
- Pool parties: most local pools offer after-hour times when you can rent
the pool for birthday parties.
- Roller or ice-skating parties.
- Local arcades or pizza parlors often have special birthday packages.
- A day at the Zoo for your child and their friends.
Hint: To save money, check with the place where you plan to hold the party to
see if you can decorate, bring in the cake, and other party favors instead of
buying the supplies from them.
Ages 11-15Do the same as ages 6-9 with a simple overnight party.
Age 16At 16, if they even agree to let you have a “party,” then consider yourself
lucky. If they do, then you need to let the teenager decide what kind of party
it should be. Remember kids at that age are very “into” who is popular and who
is not. Don’t push your child into inviting everyone you might think they should
(because they might be afraid of being made fun of for having a party at home
with their parents.) They know who to they can invite and who they can’t without
fear of peer pressure. My best suggestion for this age is either a pizza party
at home or at a pizza parlor or a pool party, depending on the teenager’s
interest.
Any party that you give should be “Fun” for your child. Expect that your only
reward will be the memories you create for yourself. If you happen to get a hug
and a kiss from a very happy child at the end of the day, then it will be a
bonus to remember!
About The Author
Kimberly Hargis owns and operates Mom’s Break PMS. Printables Madness
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